It’s my passion to create wedding ceremonies that feel relevant and accessible to all who are present. It’s my intention to honor each couples unique love story and authentic expression, and make sure to include their guests in the experience so that everyone leaves feeling blessed, uplifted and renewed.
So many of us have had wounding experiences with religious ceremonies that included the liturgy but left out the life force. They were long, flat, and removed, and left us feeling completely disconnected from what we were doing.
These days there are so many couples who don’t have an obvious person to go to to help them mark big life passages like this one – couples who don’t have a religious orientation but want who want to mark the specialness of the occasion, couples who left the faith tradition of their family and their clergy person along with it, multi-faith couples who don’t fit neatly into any one spiritual or religious tradition, same-sex and transgender couples who are often turned away and discriminated against by traditional clergy persons, and numerous others who defy cookie cutter categorization.
Therefore it brings me great delight to hear a couple’s unique definition of what a meaningful marriage is to them and create a ceremony that honors and animates their vision, their values and their relationship. Thankfully no single religious or spiritual tradition has a monopoly on Beauty, so we get to take from best of what each one has to offer, and/or create entirely new rituals and traditions of our own, and design a ceremony that is deeply personalized and meaningful. There is no one-size fits all marriage, so there needn’t be a one-size-fits-all ceremony, and honestly, I am not a one-size-fits-all officiant!
As a wedding officiant I offer couples a depth of insight, reverence, sensitivity, humor, love, and guidance. My ceremonies are heartfelt, down-to-earth, well-rounded, and deeply customized. Additionally, I help couples “wake up” around the threshold of marriage, and encourage their active engagement in the process. My ceremonies are ideally suited for couples who are looking to maximize the potential of this passage.
Once I commit to working with a couple, I take them under my wings, and keep them close to my heart. I listen for signs and symbols from the world around me to reveal the exact right prayers, words, poems, and rituals to craft a customized ceremony to support their union.
My services include customized wedding ceremonies, vow renewal and recommitment ceremonies, small weddings and elopement ceremonies, destination weddings, and Skype consultations for long distance or DIY inclined couples wanting guidance about how to create a meaningful ceremony for themselves.
I honor and value diversity and am blessed to work with couples across a wide range of sexual, cultural, spiritual and racial orientations.
I am conversational in Spanish and American Sign Language, and am happy to incorporate both languages in my ceremonies to the extent that I am able, or collaborate with interpreters where necessary.
I am available locally in Santa Cruz, CA and in the surrounding areas, including Aptos, Felton, Capitola, Ben Lomond, Bonny Doon, Watsonville, Scotts Valley, Silicon Valley, San Jose, Half Moon Bay, Pacifica, Monterey, Carmel and Big Sur. I will also travel anywhere for a wedding if it feels truly inspired and aligned.
“Laughter is holier than piety, freedom is sweeter than fame, and in the end it’s love and love alone that really matters.” ~Tom Robbins