One of a kind wedding ceremonies for couples who want to joyfully and powerfully transition into the next phase of their lives.

“You illustrated a way to bridge spiritual reverence with realness and levity, which is exactly what we were looking for.” -Todd, Waterfall Lodge 

I create one of a kind wedding ceremonies for couples who want to feel deeply witnessed, abundantly blessed, and outrageously celebrated on their wedding day. Nowadays, when over 30% of the population identifies as nonreligious, many couples don’t know where to turn for a ceremony that both honors their beliefs and offers the rite of passage, sacred ceremony, and transcendent transition they’re longing for. Within the often vapid, ultra-consumptive trillion-dollar wedding industrial complex, with its fixation on fads and must-haves, I offer a life-giving alternative.

My commitment as a ceremony leader is to facilitate presence, connection, gratitude, wonder, belonging, and a deep inner homecoming. Margot Adler wrote, “Rituals have the power to reset the terms of our universe until we find ourselves suddenly and truly at home.” Or as one couple I married put it: “The ceremony was such a powerful experience and a feeling of rebirth and ancestral connection.” This, I believe, is the true power of ceremony.

Over the last decade, I’ve created a “rite-of-package” that walks couples, step by step, across the threshold of marriage in a way that is intentional, initiatory, and deeply personal. And one thing I know for sure is this: the extent to which a couple shows up for this process is the extent to which their ceremony can become transformative and even life-changing. In the words of John O’Donohue, “If we approach our decisive thresholds with reverence and attention, the crossing will bring us more than we could have ever hoped for.”

“Our ceremony was purely and honestly of another universe. I'm still in awe of how beautiful that experience was. Naomi really helped us cross the threshold of marriage, and we are forever grateful for everything she's done for us.” -Shane, Carmel Valley Ranch

A renaissance and a rebrand.

Increasingly, couples are skimping on the ceremony and going straight for the party. I hear this all the time: “We want something quick and painless,” as if the ceremony is something they simply have to get through. But I get it. People have lost interest after attending one too many wedding ceremonies that were long, unrelatable, and boring as hell. Wedding ceremonies have lost their luster and need some serious rebranding. Because when you leave a ceremony you should feel “more alive, more in love, and so deeply moved,” as one bride I married later described it. So let’s stop treating the ceremony as a pain point or prelude to the party, and invite the beauty and power of ceremony back into our lives.

"Across cultures and over millennia, the tradition of ceremony to mark and anchor thresholds and initiations has been deeply integrated into healthy human life. In the modern era, ceremony has been stripped of its meaning and transformative power, and instead has mostly devolved into impersonal, watered down, formulaic conventions. It is up to us to listen to the deepest parts of ourselves, to find our voice, and to reclaim ceremony as a gateway into meaningful relationships with ourselves and each other, and with the more-than-human world." -The Verdant Collective

“Having Naomi officiate our wedding was the best decision my husband and I made. The ceremony was everything I’d hoped for, and more than I could have imagined. It felt like a ritual, rite of passage, and sacred ceremony... exactly what I wanted, and somehow beyond what I thought it could be. It was the most special moment of my life.” -Michelle, Hollins House

Wedding ceremonies that are unique and not ubiquitous.

It brings me so much joy to meet with couples, hear what brings them alive, understand their vision and values, and create a unique wedding ceremony just for them. There’s no one-size fits all marriage, so there needn’t be a one-size-fits-all ceremony, and honestly, I’m not a one-size-fits-all wedding officiant! I am also not a hands-of-marriage, unity candle, sand ceremony, wine box, First Corinthians wedding officiant. There are much richer, more creative and more meaningful ways to create a wedding ceremony. So if you’re looking for something beyond cookie-cutter templates, fleeting wedding trends, emotionally flat scripts or cringy wedding tropes, I’d be delighted to co-create a ceremony that’s ceremonial but not stiff, secular but still sacred, transcendent yet grounded, and lighthearted but emotionally deep.

“Without innovation, traditions die.” -Pedro Reyes

“Two years later, if we had to do our wedding all over again and had little money or had to choose between fancy food or venue you are the one thing I would choose every time! Your ceremony was just that - a real ceremony that was so deep and put this great love and intention into the world. I’m forever grateful and feel the impact on our everyday lives. We love you Naomi! You are so special to us!” — Angelina and Hoyt, Roaring Camp Railroads

More than a formality…

From state park elopements and rustic DIY ceremonies, to luxury venues and black tie events, from first marriages to blended families and second chances, I create deeply personalized ceremonies for people across an enormous range of backgrounds, beliefs, cultures and origin stories. The common thread is not aesthetics or ideology. It’s an experience that is emotionally honest, symbolically resonant and unmistakably alive. If this kind of ceremony speaks to you, let’s talk.

“Miraculously you achieved the seemingly impossible task of putting together a ceremony that was spiritual, solemn, lighthearted, funny, warm, and SO customized to reflect our unique interests and personalities. You made the ceremony everything we’d hoped for and more, and we just can’t thank you enough.” -Michelle, Nestldown

Banner images by Alex Mari, De Joy Photography, Neil Simmons, Cindy Maiyer, and JJ Chen.